Whether you were at church, at a party with your boo, or in your house with a glass of wine in sweats, I hope you had a great time bringing in the new year. With a new year, there’s always at least one person we know uttering “New Year, New Me”. There's even more people complaining about how you shouldn’t wait until a new year to start your goals. I agree you don't need to wait for every goal, but I personally don’t see anything wrong with setting goals or having a resolution for the New Year because a new year can symbolize a fresh start. However, one thing I've realized over the past few years is our goals are never sustainable. We set goals, we work towards them, we achieve them, but what's the next step? That is when I realized there's a difference between setting goals and forming life habits.
As young adults, we understand what it means to set a goal. Whether you want to run a 5K, eat healthier, or use social media less, we set goals and we find ways to achieve them. We set these goals, but once they're complete, too often we revert back to our old ways, completely forgetting the progress we made. My goal for 2016 was very basic: to graduate. That was my only goal because I felt it was enough. I didn’t feel the need to go into more depth. I didn't need to do more. Looking back over the year, I now realize that I wasted a lot of time not challenging myself. That ends now.
In addition to not setting goals, I've also battled with setting goals and not completing them. There are a few reasons why I feel goals don’t get accomplished:
1. We set goals we can't measure.
When our goals aren't specific, it's hard to see progress. Don't say "I wan't to lose weight". Say, "I really want to lose three pounds" (If you caught that movie reference, you're lit). When you can physically see the progress, you're more likely to keep pushing towards your goal.
2. We don't give ourselves a deadline.
We think we have all of the time in the world, when in reality, time stops for no one. Give yourself a deadline to set your goals. We say "I have time to go to grad school" or "I have time to save up for a house", but while we are telling ourselves we have the time to do everything we could be doing now, we end up spending more time later in life trying to play catch up.
3. We compare ourselves to others.
While comparison is common at any age, I think it's even worse when entering young adulthood. We see our peers working great jobs, getting married, having kids, getting their Master's and PhDs. Then we wonder, Why don't I have that? Am I behind? I want to get married. I'm running out of time. But we can't set goals with other people's accomplishments in mind. We should focus on what we really want to achieve, work towards it, and let everything else fall into place. Remember that comparison is the thief of joy.
With all of that being said, here are my Top 3 Goals for 2017 and how I plan on turning them into lifelong habits:
1. Grow closer to God
A lot of bad things happened to me in 2016 and in the past few years overall. I’d be lying if I said I trusted God totally and I gave all of my problems to Him... because I didn't. My faith got weary. I grew impatient. But I also wasn't praying, fasting, spending time with God, and going to church as often as I could. Now that I'm officially a resident of Georgia, I'm going to find a permanent church home, and set aside time everyday to spend with God.
2. Write more
I was so busy with finishing school and figuring out how to become an adult, I lost touch with one of my passions. In order to get rid of my Writer's Block, I will be publishing a new blog post at least once a month, and I bought a new journal that I will write in once a week. You can check out the one I bought here (be on the look out for giveaways):
It's a low pressure weekly journal that encourages you to sit down and seriously think about what really makes you, you. It has a prompt that will help you reflect on ways you can make small changes in your life and reaching your goals at the end of each page.
3. Travel more
I just got my passport renewed. Flights are super cheap. And I found the silver lining in not living in the same city as your family and friends: you have an excuse to go visit them. I made a list of places that I want to visit domestically and internationally. I then created a calendar of when I plan on visiting for the next few years. I've also started the "$5 Savings Challenge". Every time I have a $5 bill, I will save it. That's the money I will use to spend on traveling. For me, traveling is a necessity and the more you do it, the cheaper it is.
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What are your goals for the new year? Comment below!