I'm not sure when it was deemed inappropriate to express ourselves. For as long as I can remember, I was taught not to have public displays of emotion because in order to avoid being stereotyped as the "angry black woman" and it's "not cute" and because "I said so" and because of a lot of other really foolish reasons...and I obliged, but I never quite understood why that was the "normal" thing to do. And then one day, I decided that I no longer gave a *expletive* about what society conditioned me to believe was normal. It did nothing but hinder me from being transparent and I grew tired of it.
But enough of that. I’m Alexis, better known as “Lex”. The most important thing anyone would ever need to know about me is that I am a child of God. I developed a relationship with God for myself very early in life and for that, I am thankful. I am a daughter, a sister, a niece, an aunt, and a friend. I am a graduate of Spelman College, a scholar, and a published writer.
I am Black and I am in love with my culture. I am highly skilled in the art of extroverted introversion. I’m really emotional, super sensitive, and I take everything personally, even when I know I shouldn’t. Music is my life. Chunky babies are my kryptonite. I watch Netflix and Hulu like it’s my job. I am a Harry Potter enthusiast. I am the biggest lipstick junkie you'd ever meet. I'm the epitome of a perfectionist, and I'm way too hard on myself. My aesthetic is Whitley Gilbert from A Different World. Super serious at times, but I hate to be taken seriously, if that makes any sense at all. One of my favorite past times is eating, specifically crab legs and Chipotle. And of course, I love to write. My life is not perfect (it's actually a hot ass mess) and I don't pretend that it is.
I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember, and I’ve wrestled with the idea of starting a blog for quite some time. I have notebooks and notebooks filled with words that I’ve yet to share with the world, so we’ll see where this goes! As I state in my inaugural blog post, I have realized that my God-given purpose in life is to help others take the fear out of sharing their message. Because of the people in my life that have been open with me about their journey, I have developed the courage to be transparent about my own, and I believe that I can be that inspiration for someone else. As people we’re more similar than we are different and, quite often, we share a lot of the same experiences. I’m learning that by accepting my story for what it has been and for what it will be is healing. But more importantly, it can give someone else a chance to heal. As I transition into adulthood (or whatever), I figure it also can't hurt to share my thoughts throughout this process.
It's not my goal to preach or lecture–that's not why I'm here. I can't offer much advice, as I don't know much and I'm still learning and growing myself. My sole motivation for creating this blog is simple, I want to help others figure out what their therapy is, as writing is mine. I just want to be able to be transparent in such a way that will allow others to do the same. I may not be the prescription, but if I could offer just the smallest ounce of laughter, insight, inspiration, motivation, hateration, whatever–then I’ve done my job.